I know…I know…it’s just dancing.
But this is actually a big part of the day. Literally, all eyes are on you. I know folks that don’t think about it till the wedding day itself, and some stress over it. Lola and I decided we wanted to do something special, and have fun. Something to make sure our guests would not get bored looking at us.
There was just one problem…my 2 year old nephew can dance better than me! I’m a keep it simple, left to right, kind of a guy. Lola on the other hand has been in dance groups, and can probably enter dancing competitions anywhere in the world. Here are some things we quickly decided to do to help
US ME with that special first dance as husband and wife.
Kept the dance short. We felt like people start zoning out after 2 mins of any song (ask any good DJ).
Danced to a couple of songs. Yes. We decided to go with 3 different songs. About a minute each. The songs we selected were up-beat, semi up-beat and a slow one. The favorite was “You’re the one that I want” from the movie Grease.
Communicate with our DJ before the wedding day on what songs we selected. Also, very important, on when to transition the songs. Since we only used about a minute of each song we wanted to make sure he had it right. And since I have two left feet, we were going to practice. Which brings me to the next thing…
Practiced. I’d be honest with you…we didn’t practice till two nights before. We both had crazy schedules leading to the wedding. So that part had me nervous on the wedding day. But I think we pulled it off. Lola gave me a passing grade
Since we are Nigerians, there’s a chance some folks would want to shower us with money while we danced. Believe me…I wanted to be showered with money at any opportunity possible. LOL. But we had our MC announce to folks not to interrupt us during our first dance. There would be many other opportunities for this (as you saw in our wedding video).
Some addtitional tips…
If possible create a back up CD of the music you plan on using. If it’ll be multiple songs, like ours, write down the transition points. Any professional DJ would be prepared, but it doesn’t hurt for you to have a back up.
Last thing I want to say…and I think it’s the most important part. Be into each other when you’re dancing – forget the cameras and your guests. It put me at ease when I was looking at Lola. And I almost forgot people were looking at us.
p.s., all photos by Dotun Ayodeji.